When we first met Becky just about a year before her wedding day we could tell right away she was kind, patient and genuine. It came as no surprise to us that she is a school teacher and has dedicated her professional life to learning and sharing… to trying to make those around her better by passing along what she knows. As we talked about her and Matt’s plans for their wedding day it became more and more clear to us what our roll would be. Our job on that day would be to be in the right place at the right time and to document the interactions between them and the most valuable people in their lives! There were so many tender moments!
This particular moment stands out to me as one of the most powerful I’ve been witness to in my time as a wedding photographer so far. Becky’s grand dad sat patiently out side her dressing room, twiddling his thumbs, nodding and smiling to the passers by. Small talking with some but mostly just waiting patiently to have a few minutes with the bride to be before she walked down the aisle. He had a note for her. They spoke softly to one another, far enough away from everyone so that they were the only ones who could hear and after he said some things causing her to have to hold back tears of joy he gave here that note. I still wonder what that note might have said but part of me would rather not know exactly. I’d like to just assume that it’s full of wisdom and stories, of advice and guidance. I’d like to assume that maybe it’s a story about how he met her Grandma and that even though they’ve been married for 55 years, it still feels like the first time he’s seen her every time she walks into a room and that the secret to a long happy marriage is that there isn’t a secret but what you must be is patient, forgiving and have a genuine friendship with your partner. I’d like to assume that he told her in that note that love the emotion is the fruit of love the verb and as long as you can focus on taking care of one another everything else will fall into place